Have you noticed how we humans tend to dissect ourselves and put the different parts in clearly labeled boxes? Let me try to explain further…..We often define ourselves by our jobs, religion, position in life etc.
This struck me a couple of days ago whilst running a self awareness & self development workshop. Each person was asked to tell me a little bit about ‘him/herself.’ As each one spoke it struck me, most of us define ourself by things, people & situations around us. For example; I’m a teacher, a mother, husband or wife. I’m a Christian or I work in a high ranking job. But nobody spoke about his or herself as a person. So I set the following exercise:
You’re given weeks to live. Already you’re becoming dependent on those around you for feeding, bathing etc. Your job has gone now & although you’re missed, you’ve been replaced already. All the clothes you own, suits, dresses, shoes etc will soon all belong to someone else maybe resold through the charity shop. It’s the same with your husband or wife, they’ll one day share their life with another but right now they’re responsible for your comfort and care. Deep down in your heart, you know your beautiful children & grandchildren will always remember you through photos, but may very well call someone else mum & grandma in the future. Everything you own, your life savings, the world you thought you knew & the dreams you had, are all relative now as you lay confined to your bed.
All the external things that once defined you have pretty much gone. Who are you?
What are your thoughts?
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Dementia & Alzheimers seem to be on the increase, especially in the West. I’ve certainly noticed an increase in people mentioning during treatments, their fears around the symptoms. But do you know, there’s a way to slow down the process and maybe even cure the symptoms? I’m really not joking, and I’ve absolutely no idea why we aren’t told about it – Meditation.
But would you know the difference between Alzheimers & Dementia? This is a powerful question and for most of us, the answer would be NO. First let’s understand the differences, and then how a simple practice like meditation can help reverse the symptoms.
Alzheimer’s disease destroys neurons and their connections in the parts of the brain controling memory. These include; the entorhinal cortex and hippocampus. It later affects areas in the cerebral cortex responsible for language, reasoning, and social behaviour.
Dementia is a group of symptoms affecting our mental cognitive tasks such as memory and reasoning (for example, making sense of the world) Dementia is a kind of umbrella that Alzheimer’s disease stands under, and it has many causes. The most common is Alzheimers. Please note… there are different types of dementia too.
This is exactly what I’m doing now! This is my experience of reconnecting when all hope seemed to have gone. When things seem tough, when you feel you can’t move any further and all energy has gone – surrender. It worked for me & I know it will work for you!
There’s always light, but sometimes you have to surrender yourself to it.
Im sure lots of my readers will identify with what I’m about to say. Recently life’s been like a giant rollercoaster of stress, anxiety & people piling on more. My partner must be the unluckiest guy in the world, wherever there’s a problem it’ll find him, and in life we carry each other but it’s worn me down. All this pressure has taken its toll on my physical & mental health and I’d reached a point of disconnection from myself & Spirituality. Spirituality is a huge part of my life as a Buddhist and so is meditation but something was lost, I was lost. It was 2 nights ago, in tears I rang a very close and wise friend who gave me the best advice I’ve ever had.
Tonight she said, go into your prayer room – make up a bed on the floor and sleep there, amongst the Buddha statues, pictures of HH The Dalai Lama & your teacher, and give yourself up to them. Don’t ask them for help, this isn’t their mess to clean up. Just give yourself up to their power.
Even with a strong faith, and the greatest respect for my lovely friend, my mind was still racing at 100mph. The likelihood of me getting any sleep whatsoever at this
It’s a funny word control. Full of illusion, power & submission.
When we become attached to situations, things or ideas, naturally we’re going to stress about losing them because we believe we own them. Then they begin to dominate our lives as if they’ve taken over that very ownership until we’re terrified of pretty much everything. Here’s a great example:
You’ve seen a car you love, yours is way past it’s time now and you’re on the look out for a new one. This car is shiny, new with great mileage and will be the envy of the street. Every night you look to make sure it hasn’t been sold and then you buy it. That dream is now reality – it’s yours. But you’d forgotten about bad drivers on the road and you guard that car with your life. You’re out there making sure nobody has scratched it, you have it alarmed to the hilt and woe betide anyone who gets too close. That car is no longer the love of your life, it’s your personal responsibility it preoccupies most of your time. The constant worry about losing it, someone damaging it or even it breaking down, is haunting you.
In reality though according to Buddhist Science, everything is impermanent & empty (void of self) which actually means, nothing exists in the way we see it whether it’s material, phenomena or human . Everything will inevitably end or perish at some point. Given this idea, there doesn’t really seem much point in stressing out over things does there? But then not everyone’s Buddhist.
whats your take on why we stress about things beyond our control?